Oh Baby Here We Come

Hello and welcome!  We are so thrilled you're visiting our blog!! We created this site to spread the word about our parenthood pursuit through open adoption, and we're excited to share our story.  We’ve heard wonderful accounts of adoption connections made through "word of mouth" and unlikely circumstances - beautiful love stories that give you goosebumps.  We hope you'll help us by sharing this information with anyone you know, and that you'll keep us, and most importantly our future expectant mother, in your prayers.

We believe our adoption love story will be amazing 

and can't wait for the experience. 



If you, or anyone you know, is considering adoption, please take a moment to explore our blog and find out more about us.  You’ll see that we live an active life, focused on being grateful every day, and blessed with a huge, supportive family who can’t wait to join us in sharing hugs and love with a child.

The Nursery: to prep or not to prep?

As we’ve mentioned before, I’m a planner.  I love lists, order and tackling to-dos (yes, I’m my father’s daughter).  So as you can imagine, the uncertainty of adoption makes the planner in me go, “EEEK!”   

A big question:  should we go ahead and decorate the nursery? Advice on this is all over the board.

"Yes, get it ready.  Make space in your life and a baby will come."

"No way. Don’t buy a single thing until it happens.  You’ll figure it out and make it work."

The wonderful, chill, John agrees with taking the “we’ll figure it out" approach.  Me? Well, all I can think of is being excited and exhausted with a newborn trying to muster extra energy to decorate a nursery.  So, after a few chats, we’ve found a middle ground (as we usually do).

We agreed to move forward with the basics:

Researching car seats (so we’re ready to go in case of a stork drop).  

Printing out a copy of our friends’ awesome registry so we can plagarize if we need to!  

Agreeing on what we want the nursery to look like and moving forward with painting the room ("Porous Stone" by Dunn Edwards...love it!). 

That’s it.  Pause button pushed.  Sort of.

I couldn’t stop there.  Loved the color, but it looked too plain.  I kept walking by, thinking, “It needs more - something interesting."  So after a bit of searching on Pinterest, I decided to try my hand at stenciling.  John was a bit nervous (I have a habit of thinking I’m more crafty than I am) but I assured him, “I’ve got this!”

Off I went.

Here it is (ignore the window glare)!  We both really love how it turned out and think it's gender neutral enough to fit perfectly for a boy or girl! What do you think?
How to do it?  It really was easy.  Since I’m a planner (see above), I read several blogs and merged a few tips along the way that were very helpful. 

First, my inspiration came from Sara at While TheySnooze.  She provides an awesome tutorial and stencil pattern.  I printed it out and transferred it to an extra piece of mat board that was lying around. Since I only own a larger level, I taped my old iPhone to the stencil and used its level "app" to keep me straight.  Nice thinkin’, right?  Then I got my handy tape measure and a piece of chalk.  I marked the center of the wall with a weighted string and then used my large level to draw horizontal chalk lines across.  This was my “backup” to the iPhone level and made lining the stencil up a cinch.  Ultimately it was a huge time saver.  Plus a wet paper towel wipes the chalk off when you’re done.  Wall-ah!
I used Laura Gummerman’s brilliant idea (at A Beautiful Mess) to use a thick white paint pen around the stencil instead of tracing with a pencil and then painting in (it took two of these) If I could hug Laura, I would.  HUGE TIME SAVER.  It needed two coats to cover the Porous Stone color, but a steady hand and wide paint marker meant the whole project was done in a few short hours… and at a total cost of $12!

Now… all we need is a baby to enjoy it!

The Trimesters of Adoption


We are crazy blessed to have so many friends walking along with us through our journey.  Each day the outreach, positive thoughts and prayers are humbling.   We love the support, but recognize it's often hard to explain the adoption process to others (we’re still learning all the ins and outs ourselves).  Then we came across several posts by various adoption agencies that talk about the “Three Trimesters of Adoption.”  We thought, “Such a cool way to explain the process!”  So here goes:

First Trimester: It’s spent doing paperwork and getting certified.  Blah.  Just like the pains of first-trimester morning sickness, this really is the worst part of the adoption process.  Paper, paper, paper.  Thankfully, we’re past this trimester.  Check!

Second Trimester: It’s the waiting-to-be-matched period (which we’re currently in).  Unlike a “standard” pregnancy trimester, this could take a few months or several years.  We’re praying we’ll be in the months, not years camp!

Third Trimester: This is where there’s been a match and now the adoptive and birth parents anxiously anticipate the birth!  This trimester could last up to 5 months, but generally coincides with a pregnancy’s third trimester.  However, in adoption this trimester could be skipped altogether.  We could end up getting the call that a baby’s already been born (in adoption lingo this is called a “stork drop”).
Like any journey, what we learn along the way is as meaningful as the final destination.

It's Official : We're Certified to Adopt

This simple piece of pink paper may not look like much, but it’s a major milestone in our adoption journey – we’re state certified to adopt! 

Yah!  It’s the official “green light” to bring a child home at any time.  
Now we just need to find our little one (or ones??) !

Oh Baby Here We Come

Hello and welcome!  We are so thrilled you're visiting our blog!! We created this site to spread the word about our parenthood pursuit through open adoption, and we're excited to share our story.  We’ve heard wonderful accounts of adoption connections made through "word of mouth" and unlikely circumstances - beautiful love stories that give you goosebumps.  We hope you'll help us by sharing this information with anyone you know, and that you'll keep us, and most importantly our future expectant mother, in your prayers.

We believe our adoption love story will be amazing 

and can't wait for the experience. 



If you, or anyone you know, is considering adoption, please take a moment to explore our blog and find out more about us.  You’ll see that we live an active life, focused on being grateful every day, and blessed with a huge, supportive family who can’t wait to join us in sharing hugs and love with a child.

Adoption Profile

Our adoption profile book is finally complete! Yeah!

When we were first told to create an adoption profile we thought, "This is going to be fun!"  Then we started to realize how important it was.  We understood why adoptive parents squint and say, "Ooh, have you written your profile yet?" (Because, it's very hard to do.)

You see, an adoption profile is a photo book preview of your life - family, marriage, interests, dreams, home, parenting style - a "first impression" to birth parents.  All in a few short pages.  And mostly through pictures.

Fun? Not so much…too much is riding on this to be fun… pressure is a better word. And it might just be the most uncomfortable thing we've ever done. (Every adoptive parent we've met said they felt the same).

We worked over many, many weeks, but realized it would be impossible to share everything in one book!  So we focused on showing our personalities, life and our deep longing to be parents.   It wasn't easy.  Thankfully, our fabulously talented and amazing friend, Jen, transformed our words into a beautiful profile book. (Check her out at http://jlcieslak.com).

We hope birth parents will see it and want to learn more about us.  We're confident that if they do, they'll see we're a fun, genuine couple who can't wait to be called "Mom" and "Dad."

View our profile book here:

They Say It's My Birthday!

A year ago today our family grew when Gabby, a two year old Lab/Great Dane rescue, picked us.  John and I both lost dogs to old age the years before and we missed the sound of paws walking down the hall, the comforting feel of a four-legged shadow and joyful "welcome home" greetings. We knew we wanted a rescue dog and began filling out applications (some of which were longer than our adoption paperwork!), providing references and, yes, even had a home inspection.  Seriously.  Then we saw a video of Gabby on RESCUE's website... and John melted.  We can't thank the RESCUE volunteers enough for saving her the day before her planned euthanasia at the county pound.  She's a smart girl who loves fetch, frisbee, hikes, runs and peanut butter (preferably all in the same day).  We try to optimistically view her never-ending energy as good practice for life with a toddler!